A friend recently put me onto the Netflix comedy special Iliza: Elder Millennial.
I’d never heard of this comedian before and, to be honest, I generally don’t tune into female comedians. I don’t think they’re as funny as their male counterparts, and they tend to be vulgar or even obscene.
So I switched it on to watch a minute or two just to see if it was any good.
Next thing I know I’m 40 minutes in and I can’t stop watching.
Iliza was surprisingly funny – I laughed out loud numerous times – and extraordinarily relatable, but what surprised me most was that throughout the show the self-proclaimed feminist continually came back to traditional values and male-female roles.
In a nutshell, she stated the following:
- Men should be the ones pursuing women, not the other way round
- Deep down, women want to be rescued
- Women are more likely to attract a mate if they’re vulnerable, because men aren’t as attracted to strong, independent women
- Women are obsessed with relationships and with understanding how other women found their partners
- Women should allow men to take care of them and do things for them, and should look to men for protection and help
- Men are more visually stimulated so women should be considerate of this when choosing what to wear
- Women fundamentally want monogamy, relationships and babies
And while she does poke fun at men, she pokes fun at women, too. But hearing these insights coming from a feminist was kind of astounding for me.
If you’re going to watch this, a few caveats.
It is quite crass – Iliza swears frequently and discusses pre-marital sex.
The entire show is about men, women and relationships, and she litters it with standard feminist ideology – gender pay gap, unequal treatment of women, etc.
However, what I found fascinating was that despite the latter, she kept promoting traditional male-female roles, while couching these in typical feminist catch phrases.
To me, this made what she said very difficult to criticise by opponents of tradition.
What made it so enjoyable for me, though, was Iliza’s pinpoint accuracy on how women really think and feel. It was refreshingly honest and left me wondering how a woman with such keen insights into the nature of men and women can hold all the ideologies she does while acknowledging the universal biological reality that so many women these days try to deny.
Perhaps I’m so used to being mired in feminist and transgender mentalities from the media these days, but I found it refreshing to see something like this, the material of which was entirely based on the fundamental premise that men and women are different.
I think this comedy special would appeal more to women than to men anyway, but if men are interested to know how single women truly think and feel when it comes to relationships, it’s dead accurate.
It’s not going to be everyone’s cup of tea, but I really enjoyed it. Just don’t take it too seriously!