Is a good man hard to find?

I mentioned some weeks ago that I’d recorded an episode for a new podcast the Catholic Archdiocese of Sydney launched this month called This Catholic Life.

The episode has just come out and I hope you’ll find it as interesting to listen to as I did recording it.

What I really enjoyed about this conversation was how honest it was, from every perspective – married, unmarried, male and female. I spoke about my experiences and clarified some of what I perceive to be the misconceptions that arose from my article, while I was able to get a new perspective from Box, a 36-year-old single guy, who has had his share of brutal experiences at the hands of several women.

Peter and Renee gave their perspectives as a married man and woman and the conversation overall was enlightening and refreshing.

We discussed the Catholic dating scene in Sydney, the challenges Catholic women and Catholic men face, bad dating experiences, the pornification of our culture, the “Disney factor”, and of course, whether a good man is hard to find, amongst other things.

Two issues that arose from this discussion that I would like to talk about in more detail in future blog posts are:

  1. Clarity in dating – overcoming the confusion and uncertainty that arises whether two people are “actually dating” or not
  2. Not stringing men along for fear of hurting their feelings

These are both big issues that I see crop up in the dating scene all the time. The first is a problem that men primarily need to overcome and the second, unsurprisingly, is for women.

For some reason I’m unable to embed the audio on this page, but I’ve put the link to the podcast in a fancy button to make it that much more enticing to click on…

I hope you enjoy it!

16 thoughts on “Is a good man hard to find?

  1. The dating model simply needs to go away. It’s a terrible model based on a terrible theory of discernment and horribly cruel to all but the most virtuous of participants. The courtship model, explained by father Ripperger on YouTube, is much more sensible and doesn’t ever have the two problems you listed because it is very intentional and has time constraints.


      1. I’m not an in a position to comment but it really is a lottery for the innocent and the naive. A Wise head on old shoulders,it has to help. As my father tells his little dog who peers out at the big wide world from the back gate “trust me you wouldn’t like it out there”. Ps I hope I have read you correctly,as they say in matters of importance timing counts!


    1. Hi Tim, I did watch this above mentioned video by Father Ripperger ,which if my memory serves me well was posted in an earlier blog of Anna’s by you. Tim, there is a video on YouTube by bishop Fulton Sheen on this same subject titled courtship,it runs for about 23mins,it really is worth the time watching and dovetails nicely with Father Rippergers version. Yes Fulton Sheen could be viewed as archaic on account of this video being in black and white,but this man really sums up courtships basic principles with forthright succinctness,clarity and humour.I feel this man was wise to the nth degree and really nails the present feminisation of men to a T .Similarly he highlights the importance of femininity in regards to respect for women in general,which could account for the present day problems between the sexes,due to lack, that could well be the cause of the the problems in present day courtship.The favour I’m seeking is , are you able to view this and secondly could you make the link available also. Ps I’m not computer savvy.

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  2. Speaking about giving up your identity, I have a longtime acquaintance who was set up with a girl early last year. At the beginning of the relationship he told me that he was terrified that he would do something that would ruin the relationship. From what I’ve heard, this girl dominates him completely. He changed his personality (at least outwardly) to conform to what she wants. This seems bad to me. I bet that at some point his real self will come out.
    Box said that his age has been an issue for some girls. A difference of four years doesn’t seem significant to me. Who knows…


    1. Agreed ,that’s a definition of insanity. It’s funny how the need for love is such a powerful; I’m not sure whether the right word to use here is force or drug or addiction. As for Box, four years to my mind was another case of hit and miss. I think the 4yr number really masks the reality in truth. The (truth)musings of Albert Einstein ,again start to have relevance and make sense,in that “Reality is merely an illusion”, masked by excuse in this case. In a way I feel sorry for the girls- as Anna’s friend Mary said in the fish’s of men podcast it really is up to men to deal with the competing realities of how they feel ,for better or for worse.


  3. Sean, your buddy is headed for total and complete disaster! Body and soul and soul of his kids. I pray he NEVER has kids – yes, Anna, I PRAY THIS GUY NEVER HAS KIDS – They will not turn out ok.
    More men here and this guys buddy really need to internalize the red pill and Rollo Tomossi writings and podcasts. But you and him (very much probably) won’t!


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